Been awhile.

Since I’ve last written, a few things have happened. I was accepted into the high school program and have since finished the career prep section that I was working on since August and am now working on the regular courses. I have also begun an essentials course for medical billing and coding at Calbright College (online as well) and am making my way through the math section at the moment. Christmas came and went, and I ended up receiving a stuffed toy from my mom (IDK why either) and a flameless candle set from my roomie’s sister, which sits on my coffee table.


In the midst of all that, we found out there was a man, who lived down the street from us, that was plotting a mass shooting in downtown San Diego, at one of the hotels. He posted a video in which he showed and gloated over, an astounding amount of arsenal and ammo. I and my brother were going shopping that day and the police, feds, marshalls and k9 units were outside until midnight at least, sorting it all out. Last I heard, he remains locked up to this day. Pretty scary stuff for a quiet neighborhood like this one is, and it’s been peaceful since.


I made amends with one of my family members, found out someone was posting private issues about me behind my back, onto their wall, to gain sympathy, and that didn’t end well. I also found out my abuser was released…the one I wrote about on this blog. No notification, and without prior consent. Yes I was/am angry about it…..however, I am just focusing on what I need to accomplish in my own life.


Anyways, I figured I’d write an update and check-in. I hope you all had a safe holiday and stay warm. Lisa.

New Start.

I was recently on the receiving end of a smear campaign orchestrated by someone who allegedly loved me. 🙄 No one acts in such a vile way and loves someone.

I have recently shut it down…. mainly because my voice was the loudest at the end of everything. Unfortunately someone was whining about my lack of direct response on my end to them to absolutely anyone who would listen. In the end I deleted all known Gmail accounts and opened a new one and deleting known fb’s. So that’s taken care of. That’s where I’ve been lately.


That and taking and making progress in new courses as well, intro to Western Political Thought and professional writing. These two alone have a bunch of reading associated with them so they so take most of my time.


It’s nearly the fourth already! Time flies by so fast..  we decided to grill out this year again, since the weather will be perfect for it. 🙂  Then fireworks later on that night, usually from the park. Makes for a safe holiday. 🎇🎆

We also had to tackle the literal wall of ivy along the driveway, and I cut away the excess growth along the driveway by hand, including ivy, branches and leaves. When I was finished with that, we found not only that the driveway is nicely lined with bricks, but also we have a palm tree in our yard.


I hope everyone has a safe but fun fourth of July. I’m not sure how much blogging I’ll get done this summer as most of my life I don’t blog about. I shall make the attempt however.


I’ll be thirty six this Sunday and it doesn’t feel like it.

It doesn’t feel as though I’ll be turning 36 at all…I guess because I’ve been so focused on other things that it feels as though it’s just another day in the far off distant future. I’m too tired to be excited much, but I mainly know it’s because nothing special is done that day. If I’m lucky I can put my feet up and chill. I guess they do say that you get tired as you get older and I can certainly attest to that piece of sage insight, because I am exhausted myself.


It’s just been crazy making drama that I don’t actually need in my life and today I let it go. The way I see it I don’t want to get older and still be dealing with the same situation I have been all this time, for years.  Plus it’s the only way I’ll heal realistically. I’m so far off the mark for being what I was a year ago, I was much stronger,calmer and open to life again. I’m not that way these days however, therefore a break is needed from spirituality. I truly need time to just be myself, by myself, for myself and not explain, justify, defend or answer to anyone but HIM ^ (God.)


That’s where I’ve been readers, off trying to fix that situation that I guess just can’t be fixed any longer and letting them deal with their own mess, and learn the ropes themselves is the only way I’ll actually have a chance to heal and reclaim my space. I’m beginning to realize how sore I am as well. Getting older is a privilege denied to many as they say, and as cliche as that sounds, for myself it’s true. I am fortunate to be turning thirty six and be alive to witness it and then some (I hope.)


Okay onto happier news….if you haven’t been on Hillsdale’s online courses website they changed it around quite a bit. I guess they decided to eliminate altogether the quizzes and discussion forums, even in the older courses. Those were nice but they also caused some problems. So if you’re interested, it might be something to check out. They are also releasing two new courses…one is currently released entitled “Congress: How it worked and why it doesn’t.”  The other is forthcoming and so far there’s no information on it as of yet.

Favorite Place Photo Challenge.

via Photo Challenge: Favorite Place

My little patio outside (as big as shown here) is my favorite place to be. In the Spring it’s a nice cool area to be, and in the summer, the trees cover most of it in shade so I don’t roast. Except in the early morning, when bee’s swarm the trees looking for berries and pollen during the summer months. It’s mainly quiet and away from the chaos of the house and a peaceful place to be. 🙂 The little bin is my table for drinks, food, tablet/phone/book(s), feet, etc. The trees back there have that natural bend to them that you can view in the picture.


It didn’t always look this cleaned up, in fact this took a few months of work to clear. I had to move a lawn mower first of all that was around the corner from the back door, off my room. Then I had a lot of sweeping, trimming and general picking up to do of trash, leaves, stems, sticks and general stuff from nature. What came to be is what you see now after much work was done. I only have it half lined with bricks for the moment but my plan is to finish lining it so it looks completed.


The neighbor here has two pine trees growing in her yard and they are right by my patio area, on the opposite side of the fence. It’s a nice, just right size for me, retreat. 🙂

New Years Day.

So far is being spent listening to football in the background and recovering from moving furniture and heavy boxes around for hours yesterday. I’m happy with the result and I know I’ll be fine tuning things when I’m not so sore. I’m not one to set resolutions…because they never stick. However, I am grateful to see 2017 gone as it was a harsh year. I’ve learned a lot and am still healing and recovering from the mayhem and chaos.


I’m also trying to  do more coursework rather than let it slide, especially with self paced courses.  Those are great however… can forget about them and there’s no set deadlines to finish quizzes, assignments, readings etc so it’s easy to forget about them completely and come back a month or two later. Opps! I moved things around on the desk to accommodate notebooks etc and then let the courses slide. Not a good idea!! It helps with achieving a balance between things and situations in my life.


Last year was mostly spent healing, recovering, moving, settling, disclosing, and figuring out and uncovering the truth about situations that had already occurred. Also mainly playing catch up with my courses, homework, readings and friends I hadn’t talked to in months. I actually had one friend tell me they had been trying to text me since June…I had forgotten to tell them I had changed my number. Opps!!!


I am hoping this year to be more on top of things and not in such a lost place….well maybe that is a resolution after all, eh? 🙂 Have a safe, warm and gentle new years day. 🙂



Why Your Life Story Matters and Why You Need to Tell It Now | Psychology Today

via Why Your Life Story Matters and Why You Need to Tell It Now | Psychology Today.

I found this article on my Facebook news feed, of all places. Having read it I decided to share it via a post because the article has some really good points worth noting. It explains the difference between your life story and your “story”. As in…they do not include the story of where you grew up, your first job, etc. They want you to really dig down and see if anything that has happened to you has meaning. It all makes a difference…the perception that you are important and your life does have meaning. Even the mundane has meaning. It doesn’t have to be public…my life story certainly isn’t . I’ve only shared what I’ve endured and survived in the last year alone. But I think this is certainly an article worth reading… I am sharing it here with all of you. Enjoy! 🙂

Conversations I’m tired of already.

I have changed this blog title out of respect for a fellow blogger..although I did receive inspiration from her. 🙂  If you are interested, the blog is Suziespeaks.  Please make a point to visit her blog. Like this topic? Then by all means stop by and thank her for the inspiration she left for me and others. 🙂

Okay moving on…. Number one conversation I’m tired of already:

I am sick to death of emote being the focal point of conversations. I understand completely that they convey feeling, but hiding behind them is completely frustrating for the person on the receiving end. Trying to build conversation around them is pointless because you just end up with a smiley being sent your way…instead of actual text which allows flowing communication. Without this, there is really no point of engaging. Seriously…limit the emote and engage in actual conversation. i tend to ignore conversations where that is the main focal and building point…because there is no way to engage and actively discuss things. I might as well be talking to a brick wall and so now when this happens, I actively disengage and ignore repeated attempts. Why bother?

Second conversation: “Your distant…and in denial”

The same tired argument….over and over. If I can get my point across once without having to make repeated attempts at explaining myself..then great. Otherwise, by the fifth time and/ or the fifth day of explaining, I’m frustrated, and give up even trying to respond in a meaningful manner. Because no matter how I phrase it, break it down, or just all out point out the obvious….if the person still doesn’t come of their high horse and make a point of trying to see the other side of the argument, its fruitless and I have better things to do with my time. Point blank.

Third Conversation: “Feel pity for me”.

I don’t give this type of conversation any attention at all. I don’t give the other party fuel for their pity party, and this may seem like I’m being heartless, but sometimes giving them fuel makes you the responsible party even if you have no part in whatever the situation is. It’s best to disengage from this type of conversation quickly and quietly. Just put the phone down, or walk away….because if they suck you in, then your own life gets pulled down into their cycle of negativity and sucks the life out of you. Plus it sucks your energy and ultimately isn’t worth it. If left alone, they will eventually tire of their self-pity and pull themselves back up. Every. Single. Time.

Fourth Conversation: ” I hate drama!”

Usually I have found that the people whom say this the most, are the ones who cause it or invite it in on a silver platter. Please….stop telling me this and just start showing me (and the world) how much you actually despise it by not actively engaging in it.

Fifth Conversation: “What are you going to do when..(insert beloved relatives name in here and their demise)”

Seriously?! That’s my business and not anyone else’s. I have my life planned out and I do not feel that I need to seek someone’s approval on how I go about laying it out for myself. It’s a form of manipulation that isn’t cute or friendly and I also tend to cut off this conversation rather quickly. There’s nothing to be gained from it. Except sparking my anger…which well then I would just be wise to walk away…in the opposite direction.

These are some of the conversations I’m tired of having already. I have mentioned five of the more common themes here but in reality there’s many more where they come from. Truth be told, I am tired of rehashing these and many others. It is draining, stressful and just not necessary. I will work out what I need to have in my life in my own time, way and speed. I haven’t done so bad lately and things are coming together, it is just slow…and that is what I wanted for five years.

So let go at this in my own way and timing and things will fall together like they are supposed to. In the meantime I’m doing the best I can for myself….and guiding myself down this journey (with help…I must add that) and so far its shaping up. It’s by no means perfect….but its my life, my journey. Usually the ones whom are judging your life are the ones too lazy to focus on their own and make changes that work for them. I wanted to blog more but honestly I am really tired and I need to make something to eat. Until next time, Lisa. 🙂

A photographic look at San Diego, Ca.

Its hot….there is no way I can effectively sugar coat that. It’s just plain HOT! Then factor in the humidity….yeah..lets not go there. I was on this laptop last night when I noticed a pinkish hue making its way into my room….I looked outside and noticed a gorgeous sunset. It was beautiful..the third time this summer we’ve been graced with an amazing sunset. I have photos of where I call home, and I am more than happy to share them here, with you. Please be advised that I am not flaunting where I live in your face…I am just merely sharing this with you. I really love San Diego! ❤ 🙂 **These are not my photos..they are courtesy of Google Images.**


Full Moon rising over San Diego City Skyline, viewed from Harbor Island

Full Moon rising over San Diego City Skyline, viewed from Harbor Island

San Diego city skyline at night, showing the buildings of downtown San Diego reflected in the still waters of San Diego Harbor, viewed from Coronado Island.

San Diego city skyline at night, showing the buildings of downtown San Diego reflected in the still waters of San Diego Harbor, viewed from Coronado Island.


Ocean Beach Pier, also known as the OB Pier or Ocean Beach Municipal Pier, is the longest concrete pier on the West Coast measuring 1971 feet (601 m) long.  Sunset Cliffs and Point Loma extend off to the south.

Ocean Beach Pier, also known as the OB Pier or Ocean Beach Municipal Pier, is the longest concrete pier on the West Coast measuring 1971 feet (601 m) long. Sunset Cliffs and Point Loma extend off to the south.

Picture of the clouds above the ocean beach pier reflecting the orange from the sun that has just set.

Picture of the clouds above the ocean beach pier reflecting the orange from the sun that has just set.

Granted…I didn’t always love it here….there was a whole year of time where I hated it. I actually wanted to be anywhere but where I was. Crazy, right? At the time I didn’t think so. Until I really looked around and decided I loved where I was, the city, the rural areas, the entire county of San Diego, in fact. We have mountains, inland valleys (where I currently reside), coastal areas and beaches, and deserts. I just really love it here…and the sunset’s this summer have been fantastic. Whenever a tropical system moves over us, besides the rain, the sunsets are the best part. Definitely worth the time to check out and take photos. I used to really be in love with where I live….and that has slowly come back. Even during the humid summers, such as the one we are experiencing now, I still truly love it here. I love how the air here is fresh and clean (no smog), the breeze is usually off the water except when we have the Santa Ana winds blowing through, and how this city always tends to come together to help those whom need a helping hand. Of course I can’t forget that we are a Military city….we have all four branches of the Military residing here. 89calendar-002b midway01_8in_30

The Unconditional Surrender statue with the USS Midway Aircraft Carrier Museum in the background.

The Unconditional Surrender statue with the USS Midway Aircraft Carrier Museum in the background.

The two previous images before the statue are of the USS Midway as well, once in active duty in 1989 and now retired in our bay as an aircraft carrier museum. I am also including images of The Star of India…allegedly reported to be haunted. images 50519669_3a96e224a3_b 250px-STARofIndia(c)Ted_Rufus_Ross

I absolutely adore and love San Diego as you can clearly tell..but its during the summer that it truly shines. Okay here’s a few more pictures…this time of our Coronado Bridge, which spans the distance between Coronado Island and San Diego.

Coronado Bridge, and downtown San Diego, California.

Coronado Bridge, and downtown San Diego, California.


I hope you have enjoyed this as much as I enjoy sharing it. 🙂 Have a good Wednesday folks! Until next time, Lisa. 🙂

Well…I guess you won’t be staying?

In the midst of investing in my life, health and education….I’ve noticed more people are simply falling away from my life. Some are quiet about it and I prefer that but yet some are simply noise makers who love to be heard. I figured changing my focus would ruffle the feathers of some….but all? Some of them are people I’ve known for years now…some have stayed by my side and helped me along the way, and some just disappear under the radar. Normally no big deal, but when they make causes problems. Such as when they announce on a homepage to everyone that they’ve unfriended you. Ridiculous, really.

But I hear these things are completely normal….people naturally fall away that do not have the same vibration as yourself when you try to improve your life. I have been working on improving my life lately…as you’ve no doubt read in my posts. I love the saying ” The secret of change is not to spend energy on the old, but to spend it on building the new” …..and have been living by this for almost a month now. I’m not saying I don’t love the ones whom have stood by my side for years and are still in my life…I am just saying that I don’t need to expand so much energy on the old. After all….telling sad stories from your past tends to make them linger into your future. With my past..I’d rather it just stay away altogether.

I’m beginning to really make peace with my past and move away from it..which is a healthy, necessary step to take. Unfortunately that means certain people won’t end up with me on the same path which is just fine. Everyone has their own journey and everyone struggles with something. I’m just happy they are removed and the energy associated with them is wiped away as well. Makes way for the new and positive and that’s all that matters in the end. In some ways I suppose I can view it as a narrowing of my life as I am focused on myself…but in some ways that’s a limiting version of the truth.

The current people in my life don’t need to be struggling with anyone in my life  …and truth be told I have people in my social circle from all facets of life, diverse backgrounds, religions, countries..etc. However, I do tend to protect people who I am close too and if that means removing someone whom is toxic then that is what must be done to preserve my sanity and well-being, not to mention my peace of mind. That’s the sad part of improving one’s self…people just fall away.

Improving your life and your self is one of the greatest acts of kindness you can perform…because without the right energy and taking care of one’s self..we are of no service to others. Like Lucille Ball has said “You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world” and she is absolutely spot on. You have to start with yourself if you wish to change the world, for it improves your outlook and what starts on inside always ends up manifesting on the outside. I’ve had great results with that mindset and I have to say I believe it to be so.

I had to find inner peace and well-being on the inside before I could make my outer physical world appear more peaceful and with that being the intent, when it was made so, people who brought conflict or tension were just removed. I let them go….I will not chase anyone anymore. If they are removed, or remove themselves, I figure it’s for my own good and something is being worked out behind the scenes. I just tend to follow the plan until I see His results and His intentions. I just have to have faith and trust in Him.

Patience is another thing I’m currently working on…or attempting to at least. I don’t have much in the way of patience anymore but I am trying to strengthen that character flaw. It is a much-needed characteristic because before all of this, I had bucket loads of it. I worked with a family, a rather large family that included two elementary school kids and an infant. Patience was a given..even when it was in short supply. This is one I am currently working on.

I have always said and claimed that I never expected my life to change so drastically and this is the truth. But in hindsight…it was truly needed to open my eyes to the reality around me and what wasn’t working in my favor any longer. I realized a lot of things about myself that I didn’t like…and some that I did. Needless to say my eyes are open and I’m noticing things that I didn’t take time to think of before. I still have some character flaws but I am moving beyond them now and expanding into new ways of being, thinking and seeing. I am far from perfect but I don’t have no need to reach perfection. I am only aiming to be a better version of whom I was. No more, no less. Perfection is an illusion..and I have no need for  illusions. I’d rather keep it real and live in reality.

As this has been happening, I have also noticed the continual upheaval in my life has disappeared. There are certainly bumps in the road, but the constant arguing and emotional drama/games have gone by the wayside. The more I’m my authentic self..the more everyone around me appears to be as well. I love the freedom I have to just be myself, or live and let live. It’s a more natural state to just be….and not expect anything.

When you don’t expect anything from anyone, you will not be disappointed. I have found this to be truth as well….I would rather just have peace, calm and occasional silence rather than conflict, upheaval and drama. I just don’t have time nor a place for it. I have also learned to just ignore the ones I don’t resonate that well with. That is for the best as well, overall. I am able to concentrate more on what I want in life and that includes my education. I can’t pretend I’m passing all of my courses with perfect marks but I am more invested this time around and making more of an effort to really concentrate and be focused.

Energy flows where attention goes so that make it a no brainer for me. I have simply decided to have a more peaceful, calmer life….and that includes focusing on my quizzes and materials that are presented to me each week. For example, I’d usually wait till the last-minute to start the first writing assignment in my English course, but this time I had it ready and waiting, saved on my laptop until I needed to submit it. I’m not claiming to be better prepared than the rest of my classmates, I just know that waiting to have it submitted leaves me with time to spare and focus on my other courses and time left over to type some blog posts. Its all about prioritizing..something I have learned well. I learned this the hard way…to be prepared. Too often I have waited until the last minute to complete and submit my assignment and paid the price with my grades.

I have definitely learned from those experiences. I have also finished my career portfolio and already applied to some jobs this week. Not bad for this only being Tuesday. Typically, I’m not so productive in a single week but these last few weeks have been very different. I have learned to prioritize and etch out those things that didn’t need to be accomplished or were of  no importance …in other words I delegated tasks a level of importance in my life. Those that were important were delegated. Those that can wait or be removed altogether? Eliminated entirely. 🙂  By the way…I’ve broken this post up into small, digestable paragraphs since it is long. I figured that would be a good idea. I don’t like reading blog entries that are one run on paragraph myself so I try to be considerate to my readers in this aspect.

It’s funny how quickly life can change…or stay the same. I say embrace life…and let it change you for the better. I hated change at one time, now I welcome it. Sometimes life has to fall apart before it can fall back together, but better, and stronger than ever before and the same can be said about a person as well. Sometimes you have to completely fall apart and then you can choose how you rebuild yourself. One thing that can be taken away from all of that is; you will be much stronger in the end for having experienced whatever it was that broke you. It took me seeing that with my own eyes to really internalize and believe that. It also won’t rain forever, and that took me a long time to believe as well. All I kept seeing was the storm, instead of the good in my life I had around me the entire time. Well…I will digress for now..since this is a rather long post. Until next time, Lisa. 🙂

Silence with a cup of coffee.

its noon…and pretty quiet. Tuesday afternoon….just entering into Mid-August. I have turned off the fans finally, and the house is quiet except the tv running in the living room. its nice to have the peace and quiet. After awhile I’ll turn a fan on as it is summer and it does tend to heat up after a while. In this room (and I’ve only experienced this here) there are noises that matrix in the white noise that naturally occurs with the fans being on….loud, obtrusive, annoying noises. They disappear completely when the fans are turned off. One of the least joyful perks of living in a haunted residence, I suppose. Anyways I digress. I found this picture and I really think this is the truth. Yes we all have problems of some sort but we also have things that we are excited about, or even happy about, am I right? 🙂 We should definitely talk about them…share them on social media if you wish too…and definitely use them in blog posts..(if you wish). I’m not here to tell you what to do, but I think that part of our problem as a whole is that we dwell too much on negativity and that robs us of our happiness. I had a whole different post written and then I scraped it and went for this instead. I had just found this on my Face book news feed and I think it was timely. I have been walking now for a week straight (or two if you wish to count this as another week) and I have noticed that yesterday when I came back up the hill, I had more energy to pound it out than I have since I started the walking regime. Considering it’s two miles around total plus a hill coming back when I walk that route (as opposed to downhill) I think that’s quite the feat! I have also found a Vision Board site online that allows you to make vision boards for free and you can even download them if you wish too! In case you’re interested, the site is

Vision Board made my me. :)

Vision Board made by me. 🙂

This picture says it all.

This picture says it all.

So what do you think? Do you agree with this thinking or do you think it’s just new age nonsense? Whichever side of the fence you’re on….I do believe in being happy and that is one of our fundamental rights. However, that is all an inside job and remember that we have the option to choose how we feel. 🙂  Awesome, right? We get to choose whether outside forces disturb our inner peace. 🙂 What is your opinion? I do believe in writing and I believe that is helping me express my emotions and get my thoughts back on track. I truly love writing and I am going to be taking an intro to journalism course soon here.  Although I dislike writing essays….go figure eh? Alrighty then..I need to move along and finish this post so I can access my peer’s responses and get moving along in this course. Until next time, Lisa. 🙂