Change.

It’s inevitable, am I right? Yesterday I washed my sheets and bedding and on a whim, decided to completely change the blankets and sheets instead of using what I had already washing. I simply got tired of the look I had. Well life is like that as well folks….change is simply a part of it, no matter what we make of it. i decided to go with a completely different looks…and my bed is more comfortable to lay on because of it. So is the same for life..if you make the right changes and make them serve you in some way that is good rather than negative. I have blogged before about negative people and getting them out of you life pronto..because they suck all the good stuff out that life is made up of. Happiness, positive energy, determination, faith….all that good stuff. I am figuring this stuff out so I figure why not blog about it? Maybe it’ll help someone out in the long run, or help someone make that extra push to remove anything negative and dark in their life. .I have survived darkness and bitterness so I try to help as much as I can atm by sharing nuggets of wisdom that I have collected through my experiences. 

 

 Change can be very scary…such as a move, a new baby, or even the ending of something…but it can also signal the beginning of a new life, love, or chapter in your life. It truly lies in the perspective of the viewer. It has been said that the mind is so powerful it can literally change your surroundings to what you want it to be, given enough time and energy and focus. Idk about that but I have seen it in action beforehand in my own life. That is the exact same thinking behind the “Secret”..that the mind and your own thoughts have the power to change what is forthcoming to you. In other words, your own energy output by your own thoughts. If you believe when you stub your toe first thing in the morning that your day is thus ruined, then it will be by the negative energy you draw in. But they also say that you have a delayed reaction of five seconds to change your thought before it’s sent out into the Universe.  

 

 Of course, thinking like this is purely subjective….but also can be of great benefit if you put it into action. So is the belief in this way of thinking, but it seems to be catching on very quickly in the world as people are finally seeing how toxic this environment we live in has become, and that includes people as well. We seem to be attracted to negativity and drama, plus trauma (no rhyme intended) and this is how we shape our lives.  I just continually ask..why? It seems easier to change how you think and then your feelings will simply change over time. Am I right readers? What are your thoughts? Lisa. 

On Anger…(or what it can do)

At the risk of scaring away my readers, I have to post about something that we all experience, is inbred in us humans as a “flight or fight” reaction from the cave man days,  Unfortunately, other than pumping up your body and temporarily increasing your strength and blocking the reception of pain, it can also cause long term damage.  Both in your personal life and in your relationships, if you allow it. When you caught in the midst of anger you don’t stop to think before you lash out on the nearest person or the person whom you are arguing with. It can cause you to completely lose control of your reactions and blows the smallest things out of proportion and can lead to violence if unchecked. There is always the opportunity to walk away before the anger gets out of control and reaches a boiling point, but how many of us heed that? How many of us,..in the heat of the moment….can truly remember to walk away and take space, time and a few deep breaths? When is anger satisfied? When the person is in tears? When the person is laying on the floor, possibly bleeding? 

 

 What about the wounds inflicted that you can’t see? The ones whom bleed in another way? The ones that leave negativity behind like a sour aftertaste? The ones where you cannot just work out by apologizing? What happens then? Anger is so powerful, and since we have no use for it much these days except in high danger situations, it is slowly poisoning all of us into these negative, evil little beings that on the outside are incapable of love, respect, values and integrity. We as a human race are so angry….so negative….so nasty to each other. The world needs to go back to the way it was before all of this became of us…but unfortunately I don’t see that happening.  Manners and respect and courtesy have basically gone out the window, am I right? This is what I see when I look out from the inside of the sea of humanity: Imagine the darkest possible place you can think of, you are searching for the lights, you approach someone, grateful to see another human being….but they push you away and storm off in a huff..leaving you wondering what just went so wrong. So you continue on, feeling your way along, picking up the pace to get yourself out of this place that you were plunked into. The alleyways are filled with darkness and screams from humans suffering but you are unable to render needed aide. The next person you approach seems able and willing to help but they lead you down the wrong path, and there you are…alone, in this toxic place that is very dark and full of negativity. 

 

 Dark analogy/visual yes but it seems to sum up today’s world in general. In a world that is so full of hate that kids are handling weapons in the Middle East….its a necessary one.  Anger is extremely toxic not only to people around you, but also to yourself. You can lose yourself so easily in this sea of anger and either hope for a rescue boat to come along and free you, or you can sink or swim. Completely up to us as humans….and humanity. Choose which path you wish to walk upon, and choose wisely…for some of us there is no second chance to correct our walk of life. If you have this option, grab it with both hands, seize it immediately and use it to your advantage and change your course of life. Turn up the music that makes you smile, dance with abandon, and be free of the negativity. Embrace life and see it for what its worth….and pass it on. Maybe if more people did this, the world might be a better place. Food for thought from this blogger…and if your still here and haven’t ran for the hills yet….feel free to leave comments on what you think of anger. Thanks…until next time..Lisa. 🙂

On Life….

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So the last few nights have been incredibly peaceful….and every morning since Spring has sprung (no pun intended) the mornings have been so nice it’s amazing. Quiet, calm, with just the right hint of a sea breeze coming in thanks to the Marine Layer (a shallow or sometimes thick harmless band of clouds that forms around here due to the oceans influence and moisture.) Life has calmed and quieted down ….which if you know my history is simply amazing and something which I am very grateful for. I am still working on my two courses that I am taking atm but the process of that feels just right as well. Everything in life feels “just right” and I am very happy and grateful to be at that point. I have worked so hard to reach this point in my life..to heal..to regain the strength and determination I once had before my life came crashing down around me nine months ago. To recapture that “zest” for life and living I once owned. To be more interested in my “interests/hobbies” that I do have. I love life..always have. I love the beauty of nature, the beauty of this planet, and even the beauty in relationships with others. I love my fiancee very much and without him these last nine months would have been pretty impossible to get through. ❤  Friends I have made it so much easier as well…always by my side, ready to help at a moment’s notice so I get my life and peace back. 

 

 I have discovered a few things about myself as well…and have rid myself of any and all negative people.  Seriously they suck the life force out of you..get rid of them. Fast!! Life is for the living and slowly I will tackle that simple fact. Given enough time…for now I am content with the pace my life is going. And also very grateful for the people in it…especially my best friend and my fiancee and Jesus. Yupp…we all know of HIs presence in our lives..nothing’s impossible with Him. 🙂 

 

Been Awhile.

I realize that…but I have been focused on other things. Thankfully earlier this week I finished my two courses early on…as in Monday and Tuesday, Wednesday. I am taking Constitution 101 2014 version and Introduction to Great Books 101. This week in that class we were supposed to read Homer’s “Illiad” (Anyone who has read this can vouch for how incredibly boring it is!) I have yet to attempt to master that book but I shall attempt too. I like these two courses and was looking to take more but have ended up instead deciding on a course that starts in eight months.

 

 Until then I have to focus on getting my life more together. I have also realized in the past few months that taking more than three courses isn’t the smartest thing to do…either you forget to take notes as you go along, or you forget that all important writing assignment until the day its due-yes it’s happened to me! I cannot handle six courses at once..tried…didn’t work out very well at all. I tried making a schedule for those courses but plain and simple they just jumbled together into a blur finally and I had to drop some of them.  It made my life easier after that and my life stopped being this huge rush to turn in this assignment and do this/that quiz. Schedules really do help but if you know you cannot possibly handle several courses, then by all means cut yourself some slack and either get some help with them or opt to take them at a point where you are less bogged down. I learned this the hard way. Just some quick advice to make life a bit easier and a quick post to let my readers know I am around..just busy lately. 🙂

Hot winter days…………

It’s winter here in Southern California…..late winter….and only so far this season we’ve had a few weeks of really cold weather. I think Mother Nature got this wrong…this isn’t supposed to be a continuation of summer. Yet here it is in March and we’re in the 80’s. Yes..I’m complaining..because we roasted all summer…and now we are still warm. I keep wishing those East Coasters would send us some of their colder weather, but so far..it hasn’t shown up. Typically in March we are wearing hoodies and carrying umbrellas…now its more tank tops and sunscreen with the fan on or the A/C. Yes it’s HOT here….and it doesn’t look to be cooling down anytime soon. You could call this paradise….but I just call it HOT. Cold drink anyone?!  

 

 At night it cools down thankfully….that’s when i do the most thinking. Lately it seems I’ve been moody or snapping on anyone with one wrong word or comment towards me…including actions. This is because of a lil thing I like to call….stress. I am under a lot of it…from keeping up with my courses, to my daily life and interactions with humanity. Idk about you all but people are enough to stress me out…way out. I’ve had this brought to my attention lately…by a friend who shall remain nameless. I hadn’t realized before this, but I guess I have been moody lately. Usually I’m not this way…but with all the pressure I’m under….its like a cooker at a high temperature. Pretty soon..it’s gonna blow it’s lid. I hate to admit this to my readers for fear of being labeled a “hot head” but unfortunately I did lose my temper on a friend. I have since cleaned up the mess I created and have since been ding my best to take preventive steps to ease the load of stress i’m carrying. 

 

 I know they tell you when you need help, to ask for it. Well, I don’t. I have grown into such an independent person that asking for help from others just seems needless and pointless. I have become this way because of a job I held where I was pretty much on my own for five years to figure things out. Unfortunately, this trend has carried over. However, I am trying my best to ask friends for help when I realize I am in way over my head on something….or in a situation that requires my full attention and at the same time, team work. Even when I feel helpless..I have since learned the best way to get help..is by asking for it. Don’t expect others to know when you need help. You must ask.

 

Those are the things that I sit back and think about at night..among other personal things. Sometimes my situation makes me so frustrated that I end up crying…out of pure anger and frustration. I just want peace…..but lately that hasn’t been happening. I feel overwhelmed and tired….very tired. Until next time..Lisa.